'Near as I can guess it's a similar hook for every one, then someone tells you ~ you can keep in touch with family! you can find your high school buddies! you can find out what happened to so, and so!!! and so, you sign in, set up, and search for a little while. Most of us left it alone at that point, thinking it was interesting... but the emails came! emails telling us we had FRIENDS..oooooh.
LOL... then you say, I'm using this to keep in touch... no time for games. Then these FRIENDS send you invites.. and there are only so many dozens you can ignore, before you wonder, what is so great about all this? ugh. You are reeled in like a hungry snapper and before you know it, trapped, because these games then help you feel invested, and needed. One that grabbed me (and I'll own that with my leg in a cast and above my heart there was not much else to do!) was Knighthood! I built a city, then an empire, they made me a duchess.. WOW! I can laugh now, but there were players that had designated RL (real life) and KH(knighthood) as separate entities, had online weddings... co-ordinated battle strikes with people all over the world. You feel involved, and needed, and everyone is kind, there's never a reason for any one to show malice... unless they are the enemy!
And this is where I bumped into a life example.. a learning moment. My question had been, what makes this all so great? And the answer is, stress free - unconditional love. RL is full of stress - it's supposed to be! That's what gives us our learning curve. We all love someone, and we should love ourselves as well... but do we give kudos, and smileys and job well dones to those we love, with out derogatory comments, when we're frustrated? How do we treat those who live in our RL? And how do we expected to be treated by those in our RL? Those two questions would have been a weird mixture of foreign language and concepts for me, only 3 years ago... and now they are life altering.
My new daily questions for myself are; "How am i treating those I love today and every day, how are those I love treating me today?" and "Am I contributing to life in a way that makes it positive, uplifting and joyful for myself and those around me?"
Funny... I somehow thought I was doing those things before, and perhaps I was, but not with the clarity that I pursue them now. So.. begrudgingly (lol) I thank you facebook, for backhandedly helping me take a few steps away from you, and paying attention to those who are actually present in my life!
That said.. am also grateful for time on FB to connect with family who are far away, friends who've moved away, or i've moved away from, and people who never spoke to me in HS but suddenly show a keen interest in being 'friends' :)
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